A Voice 2 Be Heard

Compromise is a difficult thing to discuss, it is often when compromising one party either gives too much to receive too little and neither is happy with the outcome. Compromise should be taken to the point where both sides come to a mutual agreement and can agree and be happy with the “deal” that has been made. Simply to compromise is to come to a mutual agreement through communication.


There is a skit I heard on the radio where a guy was talking to another on an airplane and the topic came up where we can all get along by compromising on everything. Somehow we can do this if the compromise is made clear. The first man said “we can always compromise” The second said “alright give me your wallet” the first in reply said “no” in turn the second said “ ok let’s compromise, just give me the cash” . This is an example of a bad compromise. To make this good one must come to an agreement of terms. Let’s say the second man needs the wallet because he needs the money, his compromise was to just receive the wallet or cash only as a compromise. If the first was to offer say a job to the second for exchange of the currency this would have made an acceptable compromise. He didn’t want to give his money but he would compromise giving if work was done in return.

This scenario can go on for hours until both parties were happy with the outcome without letting go of their values or beliefs. But if a compromise was made both parties can be happy with the decision.

Some say one bust give up on their beliefs, morals, principals, objectives and so forth to compromise, What if we can compromise without doing this. Someone has to be right and it is not possible for two people to both be right so to find common ground for compromise is necessary

I do understand that we as a whole cannot compromise on everything. For example I am pro-life and am 100% against taking the life of anyone before or after birth. There are those who are pro-choice, this means they agree that it up to the individual to live or die, in exception to abortion they feel it is the mothers’ choice. The two forces will never be able to compromise because there is not a possible common ground, both side can never agree and win, therefore it is not a good compromise.

Now, if I was selling my car for say $1,200.00 and you wanted to but it but couldn’t spend that much and offered to pay me $800.00. I can’t accept that it is too low of a figure so we agree on $1,000.00. We compromise and both win. I sell the car losing a $200.00 profit but you gain the car saving $200.00. A good compromise, I got rid of the car I had to sell and made money doing so and likewise you spent more than you wanted but still received a good car.

I think as a society we must try and see all avenues and find common ground in all things and see what we can and cannot come to a compromise on for the better of all mankind. We can debate and argue for ever and one day. But we will ultimately loose in the end. We cannot survive not getting along and cannot work together if we are working against one another.

Please share your comments on this topic to help me understand more and maybe we can all see each other’s sides to this topic.